HUMAN THINKING: The Blame Game

Do you wear a Blame Badge of honour?

Blame. What is it? Why do with do it? The majority of us wouldn’t spend time thinking about it, but a lot of the times, the “blame game” comes in forms like this:

“Its because he won’t….”

“She just kept on….”

It’s a he did this, she did that kind of thing. But why do we do that? Blame others for how we feel?

One rationale is that we are simply trying to cover up our own bad behaviours.

Blame is like anger in that it dulls one sense of empathy. It allows a person to act in a hurtful way to another human being. It isn't the act itself, but it makes one feel better of doing something that they know deep down was wrong. Blame develops a thought pattern that allows an individual’s emotions to surpass their self-control mechanisms in order to do something selfish.

People who “blame” tend to overemphasize themselves and underemphasize the negative effects of their actions. Nevertheless blaming isn’t always a dysfunctional attribute; you can be just simply lazy to solve a problem as well.

The blaming mindset is a slippery slope. This type of lifestyle will send you downhill. From extreme alcoholism, drugs, sexual interactions, and other short term gratifications, that really, will never get us anywhere in life.

So in general, if things in your life keeps on stuffing up, if you fall into the same predicaments over and over again, then you should think about how you are perceiving the situations in life. Start by listening to people outside your circle.

Outside because quite often, blamers like to hang with other blamers, or get into issues of those on the same wavelength.

The question is, are you ready to hear the truth? Often, is the realities won’t be comfortable.

I guess why I’m writing this blog today is I’m starting to have some weird acute sense of hearing to people. I don’t know if it was because I’ve just recently been watching way too many movies and spying at the park on way too many people, but I’m starting to take a strange delight in reading between the lines.

So if you ever run into me, whether online or face-to-face, unfortunately, I will automatically sensing your vibes and your rationale, lets just hope you beat me to hiding that blindspot.

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